Anti-Conformity
Well, I have no answer to that, but to me it is finding something that makes you different from the norm. Everyone already has his or her troubles regarding life, so fighting the social battle is just another wound that will never heal. So the big question is:
Do you conform or do you find yourself?
The majority of young people suffer from the same condition, in finding whether they should try to fit in or prepare life for themselves. There is no guarantee whether you will come out the other end with or without trauma. If you did not grow up between a lot of other kids your own age you will have trouble making friends. This is already a big setback, because you don't know how to make friends, never mind conforming to their habit patterns to fit in. I don't have any statistics to prove this but it is from first-hand experience.
The danger of not conforming to social standards have several side-effects. One of them is that you loose of touch with reality and you don't know how to interact with people. It is a cold hard fact. I experienced this when we had our year-end/Christmas party. When I got to my senses I was shocked to discover that I could not think about anything else than work. It's no wonder that my brain feels cooked the last couple of weeks. But I seriously don't know how to fix the issue.
It feels as if people are forced to get lost in the crowd. If you are part of the crowd, you don't stand out, but you also don't get noticed. I don't know which is worse. When you anti-conform you stand out much like a sore eye, and nobody feels comfortable around you. If you conform... congrats, you're just not being treated like freak, but you're also not placed on a pedestal. So you basically just feel alone "with" other people while people like me know why we're alone. Feels weird saying that, but it's true.
Maybe there is a catalyst that I have just not came across. I do believe that someday I will find it and that will change the person I am. There is no need to step back all the time because of an inferior feeling. Take on the moment and make the change, one try at a time.
Who knows, anti-conformity might not be such a bad thing after all...